I had a midwife Ms. Borders that was caring for me during my L&D (She is not my primary midwife) I have had issues with my due date being changed. First went into UNM I was told I was due at the end of October, then after a few visits they switched it to November due to baby not growing, assuming he was due later due to MEASUREMENTS. I know he is due in the first accurate reading because of how big my baby currently is & my last ultrasound visit the technician also pointed out the inaccuracy of the dates. I went in because of contractions that were 2-3 minutes apart, 40 sec each. Borders came in with a really condescending & pretentious attitude & was really trying to dismiss my worries of the due date. She brought in my ultrasounds, showed me when the due date changed. Didn't look at the measurements, did not look at the baby. She based completely from just dates & called me uneducated because I was challenging it. For one, she is not an sonograph technician. She is a midwife. When discussing this with her, she didn't bother to look at my babies measurements, didn't bother to look at my family history of babies, even my last pregnancy to try to see why I felt the way I did when it came to my due date. The entire time she was very condescending, told me "I am the night Midwife, so my say goes" Basically told me I have zero rights over my pregnancy & my worries/wants were not going to be taken seriously.
For her information, yes the babies due date is based off of measurements. The first ultrasound they based it from is my last assumption of my period not measurement. Then Second ultrasound they do check the exact measurements & go from there. I have zero history of health issues, no gestational diabetes. My baby is weighing 7 pounds at 35 weeks? His head & body are measuring at 37 weeks & she's dismissing it completely cause somehow she's educated more than a ultrasound technician with her few month of a midwife certificate that she obtained. My last child was full term, 7 IBS 14 oz. This baby, I am '35 weeks' 7Ibs 6oz. They are considering him preemie, trying to put me as high risk. Seems to me she is finding any reason to consider me high risk, I left Dara A Luz due to them forcing things in my pregnancy & Borders somehow is trying to connect it to having High blood pressure when that is inaccurate. I refused to give into her lack of knowledge, she intentionally was trying to inflict as much pain as she could when checking my cervix. Last midwife that checked my cervix, barely any pain but Borders intentionally was shoving her hand into my bone as HARD as she could to check my cervix. Intentionally being rough because she's not getting her way of trying to manipulate me. Treating me like I was a child (I'm 24, married, have 2 kids, have finished 4 years of Aviation mechanics, I have experience of pregnancy as it is) She's dismissing all of my ultrasound visits where I have watched my son develop, grow, also my experiences within this pregnancy was dismissed. She tried to discourage me from speaking to my primary midwife of the due date concern by saying "Your midwife is going to agree with me too" Even though I've had this talk with my primary & they have also brought red flags to this worry.I personally think Borders intentionally makes issues in pregnancy/labor for financial purposes. Last pregnancy I had there was so much inaccurate information on my documents, like medication, experiences, etc that was paid out by my insurance that I never did or see. Saying that I came in through ambulance when I did not. I refused any medications except for a sleeping medication, my chart had a LIST of different medications that supposedly I took, when I did a natural/Unmedicated birth. On top of it trying to give me a history of high blood pressure. I'm not happy with my experience. I intentionally choose a midwife for natural purposes & also Midwives are supposed to be an advocate in natural birthing. The entire time I was stressed, treated like I was a child & my rights were being taken from me, I was dealing with abuse